I broke the glass, like chocolate, in my hand, I cut these fingers for the fact that They Cannot touch you.
I looked into these faces and could not forgive them for the fact that they do not have you – And they can live.
Let the one who recognizes such symptoms in himself is in no hurry to curse his birthday: a love illness has a special meaning in the fate of a person and, most importantly, responds well to treatment. Roman poet Publius Ovid Nason transmits a recipe from time immemorial, welcoming an unhappy lover:
I come to announce to the oppressed heart the freedom – Freedman, arise, greet your own will!
The set of advice offered by him in his work The Cure for Love can be reduced to three ascetic rules.
The first is widely practiced in conventional medicine and is referred to as the term "quarantine".
So go on the road, no matter how strong usNI bound you: go the far way. For days and do not count, and do not look back at Rome. In the flight, your salvation is like that of Parthian shooters.
The quarantine logic is simple: you need to break the connection with the source of the disease, keeping yourself from the temptation to meet, call, pass a note. You should also avoid contact with other lovers, move away from places that can poetically remind you of your girlfriend, and even refrain from talking about her.
When starting to fulfill any ascetic rules, it is important to remember that all of them give the desired effect only in union with humility, which neutralizes imagination – the main associate of passion. There is a story about a monk and his novice, sent on instructions from the abbot to a distant city. Their path was crossed by a stormy mountain river, on the banks of which the travelers found a young and beautiful woman. She was afraid to wade and waited for someone who could take her to the other side. The young novice refused to touch the woman. The elderly monk silently placed it on his shoulder, carried him across the river and, dropping ashore, continued on his way. Soon he was caught up by a younger comrade. For some time they walked in silence: the novice tried to speak several times, but every time he blurted out. Finally, unable to bear it, he asked: “Father! How did you dare to touch a woman so unreasonably? ”The old monk grinned and replied:“ I carried the damsel across the river and therefore forgot about her long ago. And you still carry it in your fevered imagination. "
The second rule is of military origin and is called the "rule of white clothes." Since ancient times, the preparation for the battle begins with a front page show. It would seem that the story will soon come to pass, the weapon will start talking, a harsh debate about life and death will begin – what does a person care about how well his form is ironed and his boots are polished? Why are gold epaulets covered in anticipation of dirt, blood and death? The fact is that the mobilization of the spirit begins with the preparation for the parade, with the immaculate appearance, the abilities and internal reserves of the person are brought to combat readiness. Christ says: “When you fast, do not be as gloomy as hypocrites. Wash your face and anoint your head with oil. " The personnel of the warship before the battle gets the command to dress “for the first time”, because “it is necessary to leave the sailors in the bottom of the net”. This unrequited love is a very critical situation, requiring special courage, which seems to emanate a bright shine from perfectly polished boots.
The third rule – the “citadel” – was discovered by artists. The citadel is the central, most fortified part of the fortress. Residents of neighboring villages aspire to this at a critical moment. In a spiritual sense, this is the point of crystallization and the source of the growth of your personal kingdom. Sometimes the citadel is called the “altar”: it represents an area of purely personal being, which no one, not even the most close and close person, can share with you. Each of us is born, suffers and dies alone. Here live the most cherished desires and ideas that do not need to be discussed with anyone. From here personal prayers to the Creator are lifted up and their own, individual and unique mission is fulfilled, which every person in this world undoubtedly has. To successfully overcome the sufferings of unrequited love, you need to return to your stronghold, focus on fulfilling your vocation. For Michelangelo, this meant to resume work on the unfinished sculpture of David, for Beethoven to edit the score of the Ninth Symphony, for Pushkin to write a new chapter of Eugene Onegin. Perhaps the meaning of unrequited love is precisely to return a person from worldly fuss and turn his zeal to a cause that no one else can do.
The effectiveness of the last rule is noted even by those who are far from philosophy. So, in one of the issues of the comic magazine "Yeralash" the following anecdote was played out. The girl was watering the flowers on her balcony. Down the deserted street, a lonely boy was riding a bicycle. From time to time he glanced hopefully at his classmate and dreamed: “Now she will come down, come up to me and say: What a great one you have! And I answered her: Let’s go to the cinema? ”But the dream did not come true so simply. And the boy decided to upgrade his two-wheeled car. He hitched a spotlight on the steering wheel and ratchets on the needles: “Now she will definitely pay attention to me, come up and say: What a great one you have! And I said to her: Let’s go to the movies? ”Alas, all to no avail! No technical solutions to the mood of the beloved changed. And suddenly the impossible happened somehow by itself. The boy, concentrating on a bicycle, a kind of unimaginable motor, felt someone’s gentle hand on his shoulder. Smiling, she stood next to him. “Maybe, let’s go to the cinema?” – a girlish voice sounded gently. "Fool! – was the answer. – And here is the movie? It’s better to see how great my class has turned out! ”